Coquette: ‘Don’t you dare withdraw from school over an ex-boyfriend,’ and other words of wisdom for the devastated dumpee
Dear Coquette,
Hello there. I just went through a devastating breakup with a man that I thought I would be with for the rest of my life. We took a break over Christmas to try and evaluate our relationship, and when we returned I thought everything was working out great. A few days ago, we got together to discuss our future in the relationship, and he told me he no longer had feelings for me and wanted to split. I am so devastated. I want to withdraw from school and go back home. I know you are probably going to tear me a new one, but I just do not think I can emotionally handle being in the same school as him and seeing him every day. We also have a lot of mutual friends, which makes the breakup that much more difficult. If I withdraw now, I will still be able to graduate with my major, my two minors, and all of my honors. I will be able to go home (which is out of state) and spend time with my family, and I think that will help me get over this situation. Do you think this is a cop-out?
Toughen the hell up, bitch.
Don’t you dare withdraw from school over an ex-boyfriend. I don’t care if you’ll still be able to graduate. This is a matter of principle.
Your heart is broken and your dreams are smashed. Sure, it sucks, but that’s life in the big city. It just happens to be your turn to get hit with this level of emotional trauma. Deal with it. Don’t run. Dig deep and plow through this thing, because what you do in the coming weeks will determine your level of inner strength as a freshly minted adult.
Running home to mommy and daddy would be setting a punk-ass precedent. You are not a child anymore. It’s one thing to lean on your friends and family during the post-breakup depression phase, but that’s what phones are for. You still have to show up for life.
I’m not gonna lie, the next few months are going to be brutal. No doubt you’ll look back on this as the winter of your discontent, but rest assured that by the time bikini season rolls around, you’ll have your head out of your ass, and this relationship won’t seem like your entire world anymore.
Hearts get broken, babe. It happens to the best of us, but one day you’re gonna get over this guy. Here’s the thing, though. If you tuck tail and run, I guarantee you’ll regret it. You’ll be a weaker person for having bitched out, and you won’t have grown as much from the experience.
I feel your pain. Really, I do. Still, you have to trust me. Don’t be the girl who leaves college over a boy. A move that pathetic will haunt you for the rest of your life.
Credit: The Daily (www.thedaily.com)
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